You’re going about your business, working, taking care of the kids, and keeping track of everything you need to tell your Durham divorce lawyer – and then you get an email or a text. It’s your ex, and he or she wants to meet you to have a “talk.”
Does this mean you and your spouse are getting back together? Does it mean you have something that your ex wants? Your mind might be racing, particularly if you weren’t the one who initiated your divorce. That’s normal, but you need to force yourself to slow down and avoid jumping to conclusions.
So what should you do?
My Ex Wants to Meet with Me: What the Experts Say
The jury is still out on whether you should meet with your ex or skip it altogether. Some psychologists suggest that it’s okay, while others believe you should cut all ties in order to move forward. If your spouse has ever been violent with you, it’s probably a good idea to avoid meeting face-to-face.
One thing’s for sure: you should talk to your Durham divorce lawyer before you commit to anything.
Find Out What Your Ex Wants
Try to find out what your ex wants to talk about and see if it can be accomplished through email. There are two reasons for this. First, you’ll have plenty of time to react if you’re conversing through email; second, you’ll have a written trail of everything that transpires between you.
If you feel comfortable meeting with your ex to have a face-to-face talk, and if you’ve discussed it with your attorney and he or she hasn’t pointed out any possible pitfalls, then set something up for a public place (there’s something about coffee shops that discourages emotional meltdowns). Just be careful not to agree to anything, even if it sounds reasonable, without consulting your lawyer first.
