When you suspect your spouse is being unfaithful during your divorce, you may be tempted to check their cell phone caller ID. While that’s completely understandable, it’s not always the best idea.
Any divorce lawyer can tell you that they’ve had past clients in their offices in similar situations. Your spouse seems drawn to their phone more so than usual. You get the overwhelming urge to peak at who has been calling. However, you might be making a mistake you are unaware of.
If you have checked your spouse’s cell phone caller ID, let your Raleigh divorce lawyer know. Although it may not have any bearing on your case, telling your divorce lawyer everything is always a good idea.
Your Divorce Lawyer’s Role
Your lawyer needs to know about infidelity before and during your divorce. Regardless of whether or not you saw something suspicious on your partner’s phone, your lawyer will need to know if you have any evidence of infidelity. They also need to know if you, yourself, were unfaithful. The reason they need to know these things is to better protect your best interests in court. They will not judge you if you have been unfaithful. They just need to know how to advocate for you.
Now let’s talk about this one particular type of evidence. Your lawyer also needs to know how you’ve gathered evidence and what evidence you’ve gathered. Depending on how you’ve obtained evidence, you may not be able to use it at all.
The Downsides to Checking Your Spouse’s Caller ID
There are several “downsides” to checking your spouse’s cell phone caller ID during your divorce. The first one is simple: checking a partner’s phone caller ID during divorce cannot prove infidelity alone. It only proves who your spouse has been talking to. It doesn’t prove infidelity itself.
You may already have a suspicion or proof of your spouse’s cheating. It may be what led you to your divorce lawyer in the first place. If you already have other reason to suspect them, continuing to torture yourself isn’t emotionally healthy, especially when a record of who called can’t confirm or deny the infidelity.
There are more downsides beyond just your mental health. Getting caught checking your spouse’s cell phone can lead to a fight over privacy and personal information. If you were not given access to their phone in the first place, checking call records can be illegal.
If your spouse ever verbally or physically threatens you, or anyone else, leave the situation immediately. Call the police if you are in any danger. Then, notify your divorce lawyer about the incident as soon as possible. Your safety is always your lawyer’s primary concern, and checking your spouse’s cell phone may put you in danger depending on your situation.
Your Raleigh divorce lawyer may advise you not to check your spouse’s caller ID during a divorce. Remember, your divorce lawyer is highly experienced in cases like yours.
What Your Divorce Lawyer May Advise
Your lawyer will be looking out for your best interests. If they suspect you are in any physical danger, they will likely advise you to move to a safe location. Since your divorce lawyer has dealt with divorcing clients from all walks of life, it’s best to trust their judgment. If you need guidance, contact us.
