When your ex (or soon-to-be ex) starts spending time with someone new, it’s normal for you to start questioning his or her motives for the relationship. Even if your ex insists that the new “friend” is just that—a friend—your gut might tell you otherwise.
Should you go straight to your Raleigh divorce lawyer with whatever information you have? Probably. But you should also understand why your ex might be fibbing about what he or she is up to.
“Why Would My Ex Lie about Dating Someone?”
First, it’s a bad idea to date during divorce; there’s just too much going on to devote attention to a new relationship. Your ex probably knows that and may be a little too embarrassed to come clean.
Your ex might also lie when he or she is up to no good because there can be legal consequences for dating while you are still married. Dating during divorce can even influence a judge’s decision on alimony awards in a North Carolina court.
Finally, someone who’s dating before they’re divorced might want to keep their new relationship under wraps in an attempt to stay on friendly terms. That way, they can convince you to be more cooperative and agree to their terms—terms you might not be so willing to accept if you knew your ex was seeing someone.
Can You Find Out the Truth?
Under the law, you’re not allowed to snoop in your ex’s email or social media accounts, even if he or she once gave you permission. In many cases, you can’t videotape or make audio recordings, either. However, public social media posts (including pictures) can be used to prove that your spouse is in a relationship if necessary.
When to Involve Your Lawyer
If you suspect that your spouse is seeing someone, you should let your Raleigh divorce lawyer know. He or she will ask for more information if it may affect your case.
