How do you break the news of divorce to your parents, siblings and extended family?
If you’re like many people, it’s not so much that you’re worried that the news will upset them; it’s more of a concern about how they’ll respond to you.
Will they blame you? Will they think you’re making a grave mistake? Will they judge you?
There are no easy answers to those questions because every family’s dynamics are different. However, with a little forethought, you can save yourself a little hassle and prevent a few headaches.
Telling Your Family about Divorce is Stressful
It’s not easy for anyone to break the news of an impending divorce. In fact, some people put it off until days before their divorce lawyer hands them a divorce decree because it’s so uncomfortable.
Your immediate family – your parents and siblings – are probably going to be high on the list of who finds out first. Start with the person you feel most comfortable talking to; think of it as practice for the rest of your loved ones.
It’s usually best to get to the point quickly. Let your loved ones know that you need their support and ask them to be there for you while you make your way through this process.
How to Tell Your Loved Ones You’re Getting Divorced
Your family members may have many questions, and that’s normal. Did she cheat? Did he hit you? How can you divorce when you have children?
It’s important for your family (and for your sanity) to only answer what you’re comfortable answering. When you do provide answers, be honest – and try to hold back from painting your ex in an extremely negative light. This is particularly important if your children are around; your attorney has probably already cautioned you about speaking poorly about your kids’ other parent in front of them.
While it’s not always easy to open up, especially when you’re vulnerable because you’re going through a divorce, your family needs that from you. They care about you and want to know how they can help you cope with what you’re going through. Therefore, don’t be afraid to tell them what will make you feel better or how they can lend you a hand.
