If you’ve made the decision to end a violent marriage in Raleigh, congratulations. You’ve taken the first step to a healthier you. Getting through the divorce may be challenging, but how can you continue to protect yourself and your children, if you have them, after the divorce is final? Raleigh family law has a few tips.
- Maintain your distance. For some, a restraining order might provide this boundary for you, but for others, you may need to provide the boundary yourself. A restraining order will expire after a certain period of time. If you need to extend it, ask about renewing it for another year. If you do not have children from the relationship or any other ongoing dilemma, there is no reason to maintain communication with your ex-spouse. Change phone numbers, emails, addresses, etc. In addition, delete their number and email address from your phone, so there is no temptation.
- If you have children from the relationship, follow the parameters of the custody agreement. In addition, arrange pickups and drop-offs in a neutral, public location. Do not allow your ex-spouse to know more information about you, and do not allow your ex-spouse to get comfortably close to you- so do not allow your ex-spouse to come to your home and likewise, do not go to theirs. The inconvenience of meeting in a neutral location will be well worth knowing you’re safe and protecting yourself and your child.
- Follow through on criminal charges. If you have filed criminal charges due to violence that happened before your divorce, and you have finished your divorce proceedings but the criminal case still lingers on, you may be tempted to let it fizzle down and fade away since you are free and safe. But don’t. Criminal proceedings not only allows your story to be told, but it creates consequences for behavior and may well protect others from the same fate. You exercise your control when you follow through with the charges. And in cases of custody. your unwavering determination plays out more in your favor.
- Have a support system. There are going to be hard times – times when you harbor regrets and wonder if you should get back together. Prepare yourself by having someone you can call to talk you through and listen to you. A lawyer who practices Raleigh family law is a great start, but make sure you also surround yourself with people who love you and care about your well being who are available when you need them. Above all else, know that you are not alone. Rosen Law Firm will safely guide you through the process and set you up for success after your divorce is final, so contact us for more information.
