If you’ve already created your separation agreement, you and your soon-to-be ex are on the path toward divorce. But what happens if you decide to reconcile with your spouse? Is it too late? Only your Raleigh divorce lawyer can give you legal advice—but if you’re considering reconciliation, you also need emotional support and answers to some very serious questions.
Is Your Spouse On-Board?
It’s normal to wonder whether you’ve made the right decision during a divorce. In fact, even people who initiate proceedings often experience self-doubt. However, doubting yourself doesn’t mean you need to reconcile. Sitting down and talking to your spouse (calmly and rationally, of course) might shed some light on your situation, particularly if you’ve lived apart for some time.
Don’t Use Separation as a Courtship Period
Unless you’re certain that you and your spouse are going to reconcile and you’re both committed to getting back together, stay out of each other’s bedrooms. Sex after separation can spell disaster—even if you both have the best of intentions.
If you and your spouse are serious about reconciliation, ask your Raleigh divorce lawyer for a referral to a marriage counselor or therapist who can help you work through the issues that caused you problems in the first place.
Proceed with Caution
Once a couple has separated, they’re statistically more likely than their married peers to separate again. Don’t rejoin your bank accounts or make major decisions together that could affect your long-term happiness without consulting your Raleigh divorce lawyer first. That way, you’re prepared for any possible outcome and you don’t have to scramble to get your affairs in order should you decide to separate or divorce again. If you have children, it’s probably a good idea to take them to see a professional who can help them through the changes they’re facing.
