Domestic violence is a crime. This abuse affects more than 2.1 million men and women each year in the United States, according to the National Institute of Justice. It happens in all types of households; to people of all income levels; and to people from all walks of life. Unfortunately, many victims aren’t sure what counts as domestic abuse. Even then, they often don’t know that there’s help available.
The North Carolina Coalition against Domestic Violence maintains a list of domestic violence resources you may find helpful. If you’re working with a Raleigh divorce lawyer, he or she can also provide you with resources that can help you start to recover.
What Counts as Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence, also known as intimate partner violence, spousal abuse and family violence, can take many forms. It includes:
• hitting
• kicking
• pushing or shoving
• restraining
• throwing objects
• biting
• rape
Although it may seem obvious that a pattern of hitting, beating or pushing is domestic violence, many people don’t realize that even isolated incidents count. In fact, any physical contact that is intended to harm or hurt you, or to stop you from doing something you’ve chosen to do, can be called domestic violence.
Threats of violence are also considered abuse. In many cases, so are kidnapping, endangerment, harassment and stalking.
“My Spouse Only Hit Me Once.”
Some people believe that if it only happens once, it’s not really domestic violence. However, under North Carolina law, it can be. You’ll need to talk to your Raleigh divorce lawyer about the specifics, though, because only he or she can give you legal advice.
“What Should I Do if My Spouse Abuses Me?”
It’s a tough situation—but it’s not your fault. The person who chose to abuse you, even if he or she blames you for “angering” them, is the one who is at fault.
If you’re a victim of domestic violence, calling a Raleigh divorce lawyer can help you get fresh perspective. Remember that calling a lawyer doesn’t mean you have to get divorced. It simply means that you’re looking for ways to change your situation and you’re doing the smart thing by exploring all your options.
Whether you decide to seek counseling with your spouse or you want to start the divorce process, a Raleigh divorce lawyer can point you toward the resources you need. He or she will also be able to tell you whether you’ll be entitled to alimony, how domestic violence affects child custody and more.
